Why Tony Robinson is supporting the Bristol Memory Walk
At the time, it was just a pleasant stroll across what is
arguably Bristol's most famous landmark.
Now, as preparations get under way for Memory Walk 2008,
Tony Robinson's recollections of leisurely saunters across
Clifton Suspension Bridge with his elderly parents have taken
on a new significance.
“They were both quite well then. They admired and loved the
bridge, and when they came from their home in London to see me
in Bristol we'd spend time around it,” he recalls.
“We couldn't have envisaged what was going to happen. Then
again, nobody ever does.”
First Tony's father, Leslie, became ill with Alzheimer's,
and was treated at a psychiatric ward before a drug combination
was found that enabled him to return home and die peacefully in
his own bed.
Then his mother, Phyllis, suffered a varicose vein operation
that went wrong and had to be admitted to a care home with
dementia.
These memories have led to Tony becoming an ambassador for
the Alzheimer's Society.
It is a very different role to those that have made him a
familiar face on television screens.
As we talk, there is none of the cheery enthusiasm that Tony
displays when presenting the Channel 4 archaeology series
Time Team, and certainly none of the buffoonery of his
character Baldrick in the BBC comedy Blackadder.
Instead, there is an unexpected intensity – and something
else that at first is difficult to define.
As our interview progresses, however, it becomes clear that
it is anger – both at the situation many elderly people with
mental health problems find themselves in, and at the failure
of the Government to provide adequate help to them and to their
relatives.
“Because my dad had dementia, and then my mum, it became a
central theme to my life for about 10 years,” says Tony, who
now divides his time between Bristol and London.
“I was absorbing all those experiences and constantly asking
myself questions. I'm a reasonably articulate, white,
middle-class bloke, the sort of person who by most definitions
can deal with the system. Yet I found the system was failing me
just as much as it was failing everybody else.”
Even so, surely it was brave of him to become an ambassador
for the Alzheimer's Society, given that many people try to
block out painful memories of a loved one being destroyed by
the illness?
Tony promptly retorts: “It wasn't really bravery. I was just
massively fed up. It had gradually occurred to me that there's
an attitude in this country which means our elderly infirm are
at best suffering from institutional ignorance and at worse
cruelty.
“The attitude towards them seems to be: 'Oh, there's nothing
you can do about that, it's just a fact of life'. But it isn't
– you can look at a host of other societies and find that they
deal with it in a far more humane way than we do – it's just
something that we've chosen to turn our backs on.”
Tony certainly doesn't mince his words. The conversation
moves on to why society is so reluctant to address the problems
of dementia, and I remark perhaps it is because many people
fear age and madness.
“And incontinence, of course,” Tony interjects.
He continues: “Youth culture may be part of it, but there's
a youth culture in most countries so I don't think that really
explains the way in which people try to close their eyes to the
problems of old age.
“Ever since I was a child, I've heard adults saying about
their elderly relatives 'Don't ever let that happen to me. Pass
me the pills if I ever get to that state'. It's an absurd thing
to say – are they really saying that they're prepared to allow
one of their relatives to go to prison for assisting their
death? It's an extraordinary kind of blindness.”
What did Tony find most upsetting about the time when his
parents were in institutional care? He does not cite any
specific incidents, but instead recalls the mundanity of
institutional life that he recalls with mounting fury.
“Like most people who visit a care home, I found the
staggering level of institutional boredom that goes on
profoundly disturbing.
“When people talk about elderly abuse they tend to mean
theft, physical and sexual assault, those kinds of things. But
to me there's a low-level elderly abuse that an awful lot of
infirm, elderly people have to endure which is as shocking as
the theft and the brutality.
“One of the reasons I find it so cruel is that when you
first go into one of those over-heated, bland sitting rooms
with the television blaring and just one carer in the room
reading a newspaper, you just assume that all the people in it
are barking mad or stupid.
“But, actually, most of them are simply infirm. Behind those
eyes, behind the shaking, behind the paralysis, behind the
staring at the wallpaper there are lively minds that could be
brought to life with the right strategies, such as simply
engaging them and talking to them.
“There have been studies which show some people in
institutional care are spoken to for about two minutes in the
course of most days. Is it any wonder they go doolally?”
However, Tony's greatest wrath is directed towards the way
successive governments have failed to address the problem of a
growing infirm elderly population, and have also failed to give
sufficient support to their relatives.
“A lot of people are cared for by relatives, and there you
have another tragedy, which is that carers have to sacrifice
their lives in order to look after the infirm elderly. By doing
so they take an awful lot of weight off the Exchequer, yet at
the same time we will quite happily allow those carers to fall
into penury. The carers' allowance is one of the great national
scandals.
“Certainly it's true that the financial arrangements created
by successive governments only add to the amount of worry and
suffering that a lot of people undergo. The notion that the
Second World War generation should have to pay for care after
they got an unexpected windfall because the value of their
house went up is nothing more than a deliberate plunder on the
part of successive governments in order to make life at the
Exchequer easier.”
It is now some 15 years since Tony's father Leslie died, and
three years since his mother Phyllis passed away.
Looking back on the time when his parents were so ill, Tony
observes: “Alzheimer's is no respecter of a person's position
in society. I think really, if there's anything interesting
about the situation I was in, it was that it was so similar to
that of anyone with a relative who has Alzheimer's.
“You have to hold down a job, you have to keep earning, you
have your kids to look after, and often it involves a great
deal of travel.
“Money doesn't make a huge amount of difference. It doesn't
guarantee you're going to find a good care home or that the
illness is going to be any easier and that the pressures you
face will be any less.”
For more information and to join the Alzheimer's Society
Bristol Memory Walk on Sunday, September 21, go to
www.memorywalk.org.uk.









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