Daughter arrives at mother's headstone to find someone else about to be buried in same grave

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A GRIEVING daughter narrowly stopped a stranger's body being buried in her mother's grave when she visited to mark the second anniversary of her death.

Carol Stone, 49, arrived at Avonview Cemetery in Beaufort Road, St George, to find a large group of people gathered by her mother Joyce's graveside. As she approached she realised to her horror that the grave had been dug up – and the group was a funeral party awaiting the burial of a loved one in the same plot, not knowing that her mother's body was already there.

Mrs Stone, of Jeffrey Court, Warmley, halted Tuesday's burial with minutes to spare, as the hearse was approaching the graveside when she intervened.

She found items she had placed at her mother's grave, including a potted plant and flowers she had laid there last week, strewn to the side.

Mrs Stone had to tell cemetery staff they had mistakenly dug up a grave that was already occupied.

They then checked and found the plot they should have dug up was three rows away.

The grave had not been dug deep enough to reach her mother's coffin as the other person was due to have been buried in a shallower grave.

Family and friends of the person who was due to be buried faced an upsetting 25-minute wait for the correct plot to be dug.

Mrs Stone also had to wait for her mother's plot to be filled with soil again and has been told she will not be able to place anything at the graveside for a year, so that the ground can resettle.

She told the Evening Post: "I am absolutely devastated.

"If I hadn't visited at that specific time another person would have been buried in the same plot as my mum.

"My dad has always wanted to be buried there and we had hoped the spot would be saved for him.

"A wooden cross my brother had made which had a photo our mum on it had just been pushed to the side.

"There was also a potted plant and some flowers I had left last week that had also been moved.

"I don't understand how the cemetery staff could have thought it was alright to bury another person there.

"Surely it's not normal practice to bury a stranger with someone who only died two years ago.

"When I complained to the person in charge he admitted they had made a mistake.

"I was so upset to have to watch the soil go back in – it was like going back two years and having to go through it all over again.

"I am still dealing with my mother's death and this has just opened another can of worms.

"The fact that it was the second anniversary of her death just made it all the worse.

"I'm not looking to gain anything from this, but simply want to know that it won't happen again."

Mrs Stone's mother Joyce, who lived in Fishponds with her father Jim, died aged 81 on February 7, 2010 after suffering from heart disease.

Mrs Stone is now a carer for her father, 88, who is disabled and suffers from heart disease and deep vein thrombosis.

Her brother Ronald Stone, 58, who lives in Downend, has also been left shocked by the mistake.

"I can't believe what has happened," he said.

"I feel awful that my sister had to go through all this.

"We have been told to wait for a phone call from the cemetery supervisor, but are both just stunned by what happened."

A city council spokeswoman said: "We deeply regret the distress caused to Carol Stone, her family and the other family concerned over this terrible mix-up at Avonview Cemetery.

"This mix-up was due to basic human error failing to identify the correct plot and we offer our sincere apologies.

"In this extremely rare case, our level of service and care fell well short of the high standards we set ourselves.

"We will be writing to both parties affected by this incident.

"We will, of course, look again at our procedures and triple-check our records to ensure this does not happen again."

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    by write2car

    Friday, February 10 2012, 4:03PM

    “It was a terrible thing to happen to both families Carol but your going to the press has meant that our family has been subjected to unwanted publicity and anxiety over the last few days. It is a shame you didn't consider this and how we would feel to see our mum's grave on the news and in the national newspapers, having only buried her this week. We haven't been once asked if we were OK with this, or for our side of the story and weren't even told that the press had been informed. This has brought a lot more heartache, which was totally unnecessary. I am sure the Council had already provided assurances to you, as they had us, that procedures would be changed to ensure this never happens again. You could have dealt with this privately with the Council and not caused us further distress.”

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    by Kayleyboo12

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 11:19PM

    “I am so sorry about your Nans funeral would you and your family please accept my deepest sympathy,it was my mums grave and it was a terrible thing to have happened for both our families. I just hope they learn from this and it never happens again. Carol”

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    by Kayleyboo12

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 11:12PM

    “L”

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    by Loz_baby

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 6:47PM

    http://tinyurl.com/6tstkuu

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    by Loz_baby

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 6:42PM

    “My nan was the 'stranger'. It was absolutely disgusting! We turned up at the cemetery after the church service and were told what happened. My heart goes out to the young woman who's mother it was.”

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    by kingswoodkid

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 6:33PM

    “yes frank sadly mistakes do happen your right , lets hope it dont happen again ,”

  • Profile image for exbristol1

    by exbristol1

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 5:03PM

    “I bet the dearly departed in heaven were having a right giggle!”

  • Profile image for exbristol1

    by exbristol1

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 5:00PM

    “I bet the dearly departed in heaven were having a right giggle!”

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    by littlekitty1

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 4:56PM

    “"I am still dealing with my mother's death and this has just opened another can of worms"

    I think a different phrase could have been used given the circumstances !!”

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    by madmax55

    Thursday, February 09 2012, 4:51PM

    “I can see that this has been a serious error and that it must have been distressing for the family.
    But i cant see why someone would put a comment saying to sack those responsible for a error , if we were to sack each one that makes a error at some time , then we would not have a lot of poeple in work now.
    Looking at the photo , it looks like the grave diggers most have done a good job of putting the grave back to how it was , as it looks as if it was never dug up .”

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