Bristol mother: Parking row man didn't believe my blind son was disabled

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Monday, November 09, 2009
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A mother-of-three from Fishponds was devastated after she was verbally abused by a man who refused to believe her blind son was disabled.

Hazel Ridge, who stands 4ft 10in, and her children were left sobbing on the pavement after the man shouted at her.

She had gone to Broadmead during half-term to buy new shoes for Peter, 10, Christopher, eight, and Charlie, three.

The 28-year-old had parked in one of several disabled spaces along the Horsefair and unloaded the children including Christopher who suffers with a rare condition called Leber's congenital amaurosis.

The condition affects the working of his retina making him almost totally blind although he can pick out bright lights.

But as Miss Ridge made her way to the shops, the gentleman sitting in a disabled space behind her, who she believes was in his 70s, launched a verbal attack.

Miss Ridge, 28, said: "I had got all the children out and had Christopher holding on to the pram.

"We had just set off and a man leaned out of his window and started shouting at me and saying I didn't look disabled. I said I wasn't disabled but one of my children was and he shouted at me that none of them looked disabled either.

"I got really angry and told him he was ignorant because not all disabilities are obvious.

"He even admitted he was not disabled but that his wife was. That is what was so stupid, he was in exactly the same boat as me.

"I don't know why he thought he could have a go at me, he was not a traffic warden. It was very upsetting.

"I ended up crying my eyes out and it upset the children as well. I think he must have just thought I was small and an easy target for a bully.

"I did take his registration down and thought about contacting the police but decided against it because they have more important jobs to do."

Miss Ridge, who is studying for a degree in life sciences and lives with partner Henry, 32, said it is not the first time people have been angry.

"When I get on a plane at the airport with Christopher I can feel people watching and thinking 'why are they getting special treatment?' because to all intents and purposes Christopher looks like any other child.

"He goes to mainstream school and in most ways is like any other eight-year-old.

"People need to understand being disabled doesn't mean having to be in a wheelchair."

Bill Alker from the Royal National Institute of Blind People (RNIB) said: "Accusing people of not having a disability when they are disabled is wrong, pointless and inconsiderate and can lead to some disabled people being treated less fairly than others."

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    by Iain Murray, Poole

    Sunday, June 13 2010, 9:32PM

    “Ridge family - if you would like a free cane to assist with Christopher's' mobility, please contact sarah@commonsense.me.uk - would also suggest looking at http://www.worldaccessfortheblind.org/”

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    by Laura, Bristol

    Tuesday, December 08 2009, 4:23PM

    “I think this story and the subsequent comments highlight the lack of understanding around disability. Disabled parking bays are for use by disabled people who need closer access to shops etc to enable them to take part in normal life. The misuse of these bays just shown ignorance, lack of respect and laziness. I have a disabled parking bay outside my house and have been unable to park in it for 5 days as a non disabled person has decided to leave there car in it. This is frustrating and very upsetting. I hope the woman in this story has not experienced any more abuse like this.”

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    by Julraj, Clifton, Bristol

    Wednesday, November 11 2009, 9:24AM

    “Sadie? Kirty? They're not even real names!

    You're both such hypocrites. Just because he's disabled means you'll shift the Earth to not disrespect him. However you're assuming I'm not disabled and are more than happy to lay into me.

    Pathetic.”

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    by Sadie, London/Bristolian

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 2:42PM

    “Hear Hear Kirty!!!”

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    by Kirty, London

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 2:39PM

    “Julraj you are an ignorant and spiteful man. Just because someone is disabled does not give you the right to disrespect them. I agree with Sadie, maybe you need to be on the Jeremy Kyle show and recieve a reality check with regards to your small narow minded views. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF.”

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    by Sadie, London/Bristolian

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 2:26PM

    “Julraj- your comments are pathetic! ... Maybe YOU should be sent to the Jeremy Kyle Show so that Jeremy can send YOU to bootcamp in order to respect others... You Spiteful Man”

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    by AngelB, Clifton

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 11:56AM

    “Julraj - there are more of you? Now that really is a tragedy.”

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    by Angel Beckworth, Clifton

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 11:51AM

    “Julraj - there are more of you? Now that really is a tragedy.”

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    by Julraj, Clifton, Bristol.

    Tuesday, November 10 2009, 8:30AM

    “Typical of this generation you're all so wrapped up in feeling sorry for the disabled person that you ignore your own needs.

    Thankfully I pay to send my kids to a proper private school where they're not brought DOWN with disabled people.

    Looking down on you all,”

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    by s, st andrews

    Monday, November 09 2009, 7:48PM

    “Julraj - get a life and perhaps a job as you seem to have spent all day online. Perhaps retrian to be a learning support assistant or maybe you are waiting to start night shift at McDonalds drive thru and will park in the disabled parking space as it's a bit too far to waddle.”

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